Weird Mom Stuff (…please tell me you relate)

After hearing all the horror stories about having kids, I delayed motherhood as long as I biologically could. And although I was quite aware of the hard work and patience this important role required, nothing prepares you for the reality of it all.

So here is my list of weird things I never experienced before being a mom…

  • Having a running commentary while I poop. EVERY. SINGLE. TIME.
  • (in the same line) Having someone ask me out loud, in a public restroom, whether I am pooping or peeing. And when I get out of the stall there is always an inquisitive look on at least one other restroom attendee to whom I feel I owe them an answer.
  • Trying to convince someone the importance of wearing pants.
  • Being reprimanded for using the yellow cup instead of the blue cup… and the next day, being reprimanded for using the blue cup.
  • Getting the fright of my life when waking in the middle of the night to a 3-year old staring at you while you sleep.
  • Finding the answer to so many life questions such as why that man has a big belly (and then incessantly repeating the question no matter how hard you try to ignore them).
  • Having someone point to your face and say with disgust: What’s that? when I have a pimple.
  • Getting some poop, puke, snot anywhere you least expect it and only finding out later that same day when you are out in public.
  • The satisfaction of successfully removing a booger from my 3-year old’s nose.
  • Carefully combing through long hair and breathing a sign of relief when you didn’t find any lice.
  • Take a day off work to go to the emergency clinic and waiting for hours because your child complains of an earache but the doctor doesn’t see anything abnormal and as you are leaving your daughter says: See the doctor fixed it, it doesn’t hurt anymore! When all the doc did was look in her hear with a flashlight!
  • Having someone eat off your plate because your piece of chicken tastes better than the exact same piece of chicken on their plate.
  • Hiding in a corner in the kitchen eating the last remaining cookies/chocolate/chips out of the box so that you don’t have to share.
  • Getting overly excited when you find a toy, sweater, bracelet, book, hat, ball, game, shoes, socks, gloves, dress, lunch box, glass, napkin, pen, clip with one of my daughter’s favourite Disney princess.
  • Having a 3-year old pick out your outfit in the morning because your brain is too fried from lack of sleep.
  • Being told my legs are prickly (it’s Winter people, give me a break!).
  • Being told I’m the best mom ever and then referring to me as a poop face in the same sentence.
  • Arguing with someone about why they shouldn’t eat a five-day old Cheerio laying on the bathroom floor right before they pop it in their mouth.
  • Hearing someone screaming from the bathroom to help them wipe their butt.
  • Being asked by my child’s teacher if the argument I had with my husband last night is resolved because there was a lot of noise coming from our bedroom.

Ok so for the sake of ending on a positive note and writing that all the good stuff of having kids overrides the bad… well, in reality, not always. But one thing is for sure, I love my daughters with all my heart and they make my life the best thing ever (chaos and boogers and everything)…. Plus, they greet me like a Rock star whenever I come home from work and THAT is the best feeling in the world.

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HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME!

It’s my birthday and every year I feel a sense of excitement around this time. My husband, on the other hand, in no way, shape or form “gets” birthdays, so he always looks at me strangely when I make a big deal about mine. And mind you, I feel as excited and giddy about anybody else’s birthday. Birthdays are special! We are walking-living-breathing miracles. Think of the odds of being born. There is just one of YOU in this world. Each one of us is unbelievably unique and I believe that is reason enough to celebrate!

This year, I will be 42 years old. The strange thing in getting older is that the image I have in my mind when I think of a 42 year old woman is not quite the same as how I see myself.

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I picture a 42 year old woman as having her shit together: confident, strong, takes no crap from anyone. Always knows what to do or what to say in any situation. Her clothes, makeup and hair are impeccable at all times. Someone who understands all the writings of a mortgage and RRSP and all that adult stuff. A woman who knows exactly where she is going and has a clear idea of her future life path.

Me, as a 42 year old woman, goes more like this: I’m flying by the seat of my pants to get my small kids out the door in the morning. Most often than not I feel like a hot mess. I get shit done but in no way do I really know what I’m doing half the time. Dry shampoo, concealer and ponytails are staples in my makeup repertoire. The days when I notice an oatmeal stain on my pants (left by a half-cleaned three year old), I usually wipe it off with my own spit! Usually I don’t even notice the stain, until I worked all day and looked down at my pants at 4pm and wonder WTF is that?!?

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I have to agree that one thing I have in common with my imaginary 42 year old self is that I do have a certain level of confidence that I didn’t have in my twenties or thirties for that matter. I feel better in my skin and don’t feel you have to prove anything to others to own your worth. I also feel like I have so much to learn and have found a new outlook and curiosity for life. I’m no longer trying to achieve this and that but rather look at life as a learning experience and am intrigued by people and situations and put my heart and soul into trying new life opportunities to learn from and share with others.

I embrace and am grateful for the 42 years I have been on this Earth. I look forward to the next year and am ready to seek and appreciate all the moments that show up. I look ahead, surrounded by all the wonderful souls on this Earth, and chose to live the best life and grab all the wonderful opportunities that come my way. No second wasted.

How do you celebrate your birthday?

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How to Have it All in 2018!

Happy-New-Year-2018As the New Year is swiftly approaching, the feeling of starting fresh is rampant. In the first few days of the new year, we have all the motivation to get us up and going. Some of us vow this will be the year that we will finally lose the weight, pay off debt, take that trip we always wanted to take, eat better,… Then there are others that are all too accustomed to breaking their resolutions before they even begin and find it simpler not make any resolutions and stay status quo and not change anything in their lives.

Sometimes the answer lies somewhere in the middle.

If you are motivated, go with it. Instead of calling them New Year’s resolutions, call them goals. Here are some tricks to make your goals stick all year round.

  1. Limit how many goals you pick: Some years I had a list of about 10 goals to achieve: stop eating crap, exercise every day, stop buying crap I don’t need, write daily in my journal, read a book a month, etc. By the end of week 2, I would definitely fail at one of those things. Instead, write down 3 goals for the year and mark your most important. Start with that one. Remember you can have it all just not all at the same time! HealthandFitnessGoals
  2. Make your goals achievable: This one is important because it will keep you motivated longer. For example, if you never exercise and now you want to workout everyday, that may not be feasible. Start off slow, maybe exercise 1 or 2 days per week the first week. Then continue until you feel you can fit in a third day, then a fourth and so forth. Also, no need to spend two hours at the gym, sometimes 30 minutes is all you need. If 30 minutes is too long, start with 10 minutes and build it up gradually.goal-quote goal without plan-1
  3. Break it down: In order to achieve your goal, just like any other big project, break it down into smaller tasks. For example, say you want to lose 20 pounds. It won’t happen overnight. In fact, a healthy way to lose the weight is to lose 1 to 2 pounds per week. Then, it’s important to calculate how many calories you have to burn per week in order to lose 1 or 2 pounds per week (click here to find out how). So if you do the math, it may take up to 4 or 5 months for you to lose 20 pounds in a healthy, non-depriving, bitchy way.
  4. Make it fun: You won’t always feel like it. In fact, most people abandon their goals after the first 2 weeks of starting. The trick is to keep going. Don’t expect motivation to always be present. Depend on discipline to get you through. Make it a habit, like brushing your teeth, then you will wonder how you got along without doing what you are now so used to doing.success-quote
  5. Review and reward: Once you break out your goal into achievable sub-goals, you can choose to reward yourself after achieving each sub-goal. For example, if you want to get stronger and do 100 push ups a day by the end of the year, reward yourself when you manage to do 25, then 50,… Rewards don’t have to be big or things, it can be as simple as putting a dollar in a jar for every workout or getting a spa day after losing your first 5 pounds. Also, review your goals every three months to see how much progress you made and whether you need to adjust them to make them harder or ease up a bit.Clear strategy and leadership solutions

And most importantly, enjoy the process. Learn as much as you can from the journey. You will be amazed how many new things you will learn along the process, the people you will meet and the new experiences you will discover.

Enjoy 2018 and share your goals below…

 

Dear Motivation, You suck!

Dear motivation,
Once again, we were having so much fun before you decided to leave me once again. We had this great thing going. I was happy to get up every morning to workout and plan my healthy meals; then you bail like you have done in the past, slipping quietly out the back door.

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Why did you have to leave me again?! You always do this to me. Right when I think I finally found something that works and am filled with energy, you always manage to slowly disappear, get lost, and vanish.

And to make matters worse, you leave at the worst moments: when it’s cold outside, when I’m feeling stressed, when I have a bad night’s sleep, when the kids are sick, when I go on business trips, when I leave for a relaxing vacation… Don’t you understand that THAT’s when I NEED you the most!!!!!

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Why can’t you be more like Discipline, I can count on her. She whips my ass out of bed (no matter how grumpy I am), gets me up when I don’t want to and pushes me into action. Sure, sometimes I push her aside but then she always wins because I know she’s right. I know that my workouts make me feel better, I know that eating regularly keeps Mrs Hangry pants at bay; why don’t you get that and stick around. Damn you motivation!

How do you expect me to get anything done if you’re not around? I look for you everywhere. It’s not like I don’t want to workout or lose the weight or tone up or stop eating that extra piece of chocolate, you’re just not there when I need you. Screw you! And willpower too while I’m at it!

And then once and a while you come back and were soo happy again and you make me feel like this time it’s forever, a new start, I can take on the world but then two weeks later you sneak back out again. I don’t have to take this.

From now on, we can have an open relationship. You can come and go as you please but if you’re looking for me, I’ll be with my new crew: Discipline, Patience and Consistency.  They may not be as sexy as you but those chicks, I can count on to get the job done EVERY. SINGLE. TIME.

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See ya around mothafucka.

EMBRACING DEFEAT

Last week my 5 year old daughter had a “race day” at her school. Every grade participated and there were three medals (gold, silver and bronze) distributed per grade for the winners of the race. Just to give you a little context, my daughter is a mini alex when it comes to sports. She is very talented in different areas but her natural abilities are not really in sports. So when I came back home from work that day, I found my little girl curled up in a ball on the couch, under a cozy fuzzy blanket, quietly whimpering away. When I asked her what was wrong, she flung into my arms and sobbed: I didn’t win the medal.

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I felt my heart crack and held her tight and brought her into the kitchen to discuss her feelings about what happened that day. Although, to most, it might just seem like a mini event in the grand scheme of things in the life of a 5 year old, but I believe the way we react to defeat has been taught to us from a very young age. For most of us, it goes something like this: We fail at something. We cry. We get angry. A while later, most don’t try but some of us try again. We fail again. We tell ourselves that it is no surprise since we failed before. A few of us try yet again. We fail again. We tell ourselves we aren’t good. We give up. For good this time and hesitate the next time opportunity knocks.

Some of you might be like: yeah, and… your point is….?

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Guess What?…Everyone has failed at some point. The people we consider the brightest have all failed, over and over and over again. But they NEVER quit! Here are just a few examples:

Walt Disney was fired from the Kansas City Star because his editor felt he “lacked imagination and had no good ideas.”

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Oprah Winfrey was publicly fired from her first television job as an anchor in Baltimore for getting “too emotionally invested in her stories.”

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Vera Wang failed to make the 1968 US Olympic figure-skating team. Then she became an editor at Vogue, but was passed over for the editor-in-chief position.

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Thomas Edison’s teachers told him he was “too stupid to learn anything.”

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Theodor Seuss Geisel, better known as Dr. Seuss, had his first book rejected by 27 different publishers.

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My message to my daughter that day (and all of us too!):

 

 

You have the world in front of you. So many great things to look forward to if you open your eyes.

You have so many precious gifts to share with this world. So stand tall and don’t be afraid to show them.

Never let anything stand in your way to succeeding. Live life as though it is a fantastic adventure not a competition. Be happy for those who win. Just because they win before you doesn’t mean your chance won’t come one day.

Believe in yourself. Be true to yourself and never ever quit on yourself.

This is Why I think YOU’RE AWESOME!

I can honestly say that I love people. I love listening to people talk, how they think, relate to one another. I am intrigued by human life; figures why I studied psychology! It never ceases to amaze me that every single one of us is different. I mean, YOU are 1 in 7.5 billion! Nobody is like YOU, nobody was ever YOU and nobody will ever be YOU. Isn’t that mind blowing?

Ok. Now. Stop.

Take this in. You are 1 in 7.5 fuckin’ billion.

WOW, right?

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We should be like fuckin’ jumping and shouting from the rooftops about how wonderful we are! The way you talk, the way you do things, the way you think is different than anybody else. Your signature is yours. Your voice. Your fingerprints. All YOU! Own it. Embrace it. Dip yourself in champagne for this is the best new we can get!

Let’s embrace this uniqueness. Let’s take a moment to feel how wonderful it is to be unlike anybody else. This also means that we owe it to the world to show the amazing things we, and only we, can do. We also owe it to those around us to raise each other up. To support one another. To cheer on our differences and embrace them.

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Let’s stop being complacent and think that “big” things and making a difference are only reserved for the special few, for the brightest, for the prettiest, for the ones most privileged by talent. It is often not the best or the brightest that succeed but the ones that work the hardest, that don’t give up on themselves, or their dreams and who believe that they will succeed no matter what. Let go of limiting beliefs that have kept you from being your authentic you. Shed the beliefs birthed from the failures of your past and use them to shine a light on your future.

Ok, someone stop me before I start lighting some incense and singing kumbaya…

I will leave you with a poem my mom read to me as a little girl and that stayed with me all these years.

“The Man who Thinks he Can”, by Walter D. Wintle

If you think you are beaten, you are;

 

If you think you dare not, you don’t.

If you’d like to win, but think you can’t

It’s almost a cinch you won’t.

If you think you’ll lose, you’ve lost.

 

For out in the world we find

Success begins with a fellow’s will:

It’s all in his state of mind.

If you think you’re outclassed, you are:

 

You’ve got to think high to rise,

You’ve got to be sure of yourself before

You’ll ever win that prize.

Life’s battles don’t always go

 

To the stronger or faster man,

But sooner or later the man who wins

Is the one who thinks he can.

Keep seeing the good in the world and in ourselves, because it is always there if you choose to see it.

Let Anxiety In…

Given all my years of experience with anxiety (hello, childhood friend who gave me stomach aches and the shakes the night before a presentation!), I have actually built a solid repertoire of tools to help me deal with anxious thoughts.

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In fact, this tool actually was brought to me during my second pregnancy when I went to my prenatal yoga class. I saw a sheet of paper pinned to a bulletin board, and on it was printed the following poem.

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This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they are a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice.
meet them at the door laughing and invite them in.

Be grateful for whatever comes.
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.

— Jellaludin Rumi

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After reading the poem, I chose to put it into practice. My yoga teacher once told the class that emotions, just like labor pain, come and go like a wave. The premise is to treat anxious thoughts like a guest.

Invite the emotion in, welcome it instead of pushing it away. Observe it with curiosity instead of trying to avoid it. And let it go as opposed to fearing anxiety and desperately trying to rid yourself of feeling anxious (which actually makes it worse because then you spiral into those ruminating thoughts that start spinning in your head and where you feel you have lost control. See, told you, I knew what I was talking about :D)

In fact, in moments of anxiety, I would actually envision a scene, where anxiety takes a human form (like a decrepit, weak, trembling, scared old man) knocking on my door and I picture myself inviting him in a cozy, warm living room with a fireplace.

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I proceed to ask him to take a seat and stay for tea and we sit for a while. It might sound cuckoo, but don’t knock it until you’ve tried it. It may take some practice and your own twist to it but the more you get comfortable with your uncomfortable emotions like anxiety, sadness, anger, etc. the more you have a handle on them and then they stop controlling you.

You are always in control of the way you feel. Anxiety can happen to everyone at some point. Slow down when it happens. Slow down your thoughts. Don’t fear it. Acknowledge it. And always breathe and keep breathing… inevitably, the guest will decide to leave you be.

How do you keep your anxious thoughts in check?

TOP 5 REASONS WHY A GRATEFUL HEART IS A HEALTHY HEART

With Thanksgiving weekend here (well, at least in Canada, that is) I figured it would be fun to remind everyone of how truly beneficial it is to have a grateful heart.

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Here are my top 5 reasons why gratefulness should be a priority for all:

  1. IT MAKES YOU HEALTHIER: Keeping a gratitude journal and writing in it a few minutes each day can actually make you healthier. A study conducted in 2003 by Emmons and McCullough demonstrated that participants who partook in a habit of being grateful benefited from far more health benefits than those who did not. The grateful participants spent 19% more time exercising, they had a 25% increase in sleep quality, and they reported 10% fewer physical symptoms over the study time period.woman-standing
  2. IT MAKES YOU MORE LIKEABLE: Multiple studies have shown that grateful attitude brings about pro-social behavior. Ask yourself: Would you rather hang out with a cheerful person who is grateful for what they have or a person complaining about what they don’t have in this lifetime!? Keeping a gratitude journal is enough to make you more likely to help others with their problems and makes you more likely to offer them emotional support. Let’s just say it puts your “empathy-motor” into overdrive 😀

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  1. IT MAKES YOU LOOK GOOD: Ingratitude is universally looked upon with contempt. Gratitude, on the other hand, is considered a virtue in all major religions and most modern cultures. It takes a strong person to acknowledge that they didn’t get to where they are all on their own – that without others they may never have made it. People like being acknowledged. We all do and we tend to like those who acknowledge us and see them in a more positive, attractive light. Mae West
  2. IT HELPS YOU CRUSH GOALS: In one study, participants were asked to write down those goals which they wished to accomplish over the next two months. Those who were instructed to keep a gratitude journal reported more progress on achieving their goals at the end of the study. In fact, how gratitude works is that you become more aware of how, when things don’t go your way, you can still find a way to learn from the experience or not be discouraged by it and move past it faster.80s-fitness-fashion-girls-8
  3. IT MAKES YOU HAPPIER: Ultimately, if you sleep better, look better (as a benefit of exercising more), have more people like you (given your friendlier nature), you will be happier. Imagine, how a small change, done consistently over time, like entering a few lines of some of the things that you are grateful for can lead you to your happier better life!

Why not start now, and write down below what you are grateful for?

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OLD ME VS NEW ME: SEEING BOTH SIDES

Believe it or not, for those who didn’t know me before my 40’s revolution, I wasn’t always into fitness. In fact, I actually shunned exercise and didn’t understand what all the fuss was about.

I mean, I knew it was good for you in a general sense but always imagined you had to be a professional athlete or someone who worked out for hours on end to reap the full benefits. Until last year, I didn’t realize that exercise not only helps you feel more energetic and stronger but it has tremendous impact on your perception of the world. Those endorphins hold a powerful punch!

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Since last year, I had a lot of people come to me and tell me those same things I used to say to myself and how I used to perceive exercise and those who partook in such a “crazy” thing. Here’s a sneak peak interview into the workings of my old-self brain and the changes to my new self…

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OLD ME: Why do you post your workout on social media? People who post their workouts on social media are so full of themselves. Oh wow! You sweat, look at you all getting healthy. What are you trying to prove? Give me a break, eat a hamburger!

NEW ME: Although I can see how annoying it may seem, I do it because after years of rolling my eyes at an old colleague who used to post her fitness workouts online, I finally reached out to her to see what she was doing ‘cause she looked so darn good and happy. And her “annoying” posts actually got me to do something and start moving. So although I felt uncomfortable posting at first, and still feel a little self conscious from time to time, I tell myself, if I can motivate ONE single person to do something good for their health and themselves, then it’s all worth it! And imma gonna keep postin’ that sh*t! 😀

OLD ME: Oh no, have you been brainwashed by a pyramid scheme company and now want to sell me a bunch of health stuff I don’t need?

NEW ME: Nah. I got my hands full with a full-time job and two small kids at home. Ain’t got time to stalk you into scam. To tell you the truth, I became a Beachbody coach to stay accountable and by setting an example for others, I can’t just skip workouts or eat crap all the time. And now, it’s become a hobby. I love running challenge groups and seeing people motivated to workout and change their bad eating habits. Heck, whether you do a Beachbody workout or another type of workout, the important thing for me is to see people make some positive changes to their lives. I just picked Beachbody because everything is organized for you: your workout calendar, meal plans and your own coach. This works for me and for many but if this ain’t the right fit for you, I encourage you to find something that works. You will be happy you did.

OLD ME: I can’t do what you do, I have a full-time job, kids, bad knees, bad back, etc.?

NEW ME: Hellooooooo, so do I. I have realized that it’s really about finding a formula that works for you. I work full-time so I make sure to get my workout in first thing in the morning, before work, even if that means waking up at 5am before the kids. My right wrist is weak so I do my pushups on my knees, then again, my knees are weak too, so some moves I step them out instead of jumping. I go at my pace and listen to my body. As they say, if you really want something you find a way, or else you find excuses!

OLD ME: Those fitness programs don’t work, I tried them for a couple of weeks and I didn’t lose any weight and maybe even gained weight!

NEW ME: Beachbody programs, unlike other diet programs, aren’t quick fixes. Quick fixes DON’T WORK on the long term anyway. These programs are meant to fit into your lifestyle. You need to find your groove and see how you can fit 30 minutes of working out and cutting out crap from your diet and eat within your calorie range… it’s simple… not easy but simple. I lost 4 measly pounds the first month. Then 2 the month after that, then didn’t lose any weight for another 2 months, etc… but kept going and lost in my sixth month in. Weight loss is not consistent and life happens, we sometimes get sidetracked and that is fine but you stay consistent and you stick to it and that’s when you start seeing results on all levels.

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So if you see yourself in the old me, give me a shout, I’d love to see if I can help you out to reach a new You! What’s your excuse not to?

SHUSHING YOUR INNER MEAN GIRL

Last week I started running again.

After my short-lived running career back in March of this year, running fell by the wayside. But sometimes running away from something always manages to bite you in the a** until you deal with it once and for all. And I must admit that in the past few months, there have been one too many signs signaling me that this was the right time to start again and this is what I needed to do. For years, I wanted to run a 5k and when I suddenly got a text last week from a lovely friend asking me to join her in the Rock n’ Roll Run on September 23rd; I “5-second-ruled-it” and said, without hesitation, YESSS! That’s not true, I hesitated for a split second but answered YES anyways 😀

I knew I was starting and I would need to train if I wanted to run a 5K without injury (physically and ego-wise; nothing worse than a bruised ego :P). I felt ready. What I wasn’t ready for was all the mean girl talk that occurred once I actually got started!

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ME (Day 1): Ok, let’s do this!

After one minute… this is cool, I love being outside! It feels good to start again. The fresh air, morning breeze, …

Three minutes later… Ok, why am I tired? I need to walk. My legs are feeling heavy. I workout almost everyday why do I suck at this? I was never good at running, what makes me think I will be good now. In high school I came last for the 1.5km, that was so embarrassing! I don’t know if I can do this. Ok, shush, let’s start running again…

After 5 minutes: Man, running is hard! I hope I don’t hurt myself. What if I have to walk to whole way? Why am I so slow? I suck at this. I can’t back out now, I gave my word. People will think I’m a fake, posting all those workout selfies and I can’t even run a 5k. Anyone can run a 5k!… except me.

Minute 8: Ok, I’m resting, I need a time out. Why am I so hard on myself? Stop being hard on yourself. So what if they laugh at me? Oh no, my husband and my kids will be there. They’ll want me to go faster. But I’ll be tired and achy. I don’t want them to see me like that. Arghhhhhhhh!

Minute 10: Ok I’m running a bit more and then I’m done. I have no clue how I’m going to get better. I just don’t see it.

Minute 14: ok. I’m done.

After that, I got back home, and feeling disappointed in my run. Duhhhhhhhh!

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But as all experiences are lessons in disguise, I chose to look back at my run that morning. Hey, I figured it would make a great blog post! And also see what I could change for my next practice run.

I write and talk about positive mindset and here I was getting sucked into the same inner mean talk we often give ourselves when we attempt something new. However, once you become mindful of that, you can change it. It probably won’t happen overnight and that mean girl might still be lurking in a dark corner of the coils of that brain of yours and pop out when you least expect her, but you CAN change your thoughts over time.

As I was writing down what I was thinking during my run, I was surprised. It suddenly dawned on me that I would never say those things to someone I cared about who wanted to take up running! …then why do I say them to myself?

Next run, I will focus on the fact that I got the discipline to get out there and run, no matter how slow I go. I showed up! Nothing happens overnight, I will get better, it is inevitable. And if all else fails, well, it takes slow runners to make fast runners look good. So you’re welcome! 😀

36894c78be9edba1d3f8b57d722817f1--running-motivation-fitness-motivationAs for all of us, next time, you start a new job, sport, hobby, whatever it is… remember that the negative self-talk is probably our egos trying to protect us in a way to make us quit and return to our comfort zone. But it is by moving out of your comfort zone that growth occurs and you get to experience what life is all about.

Be kind to yourself. Be brave. AND shush that inner mean girl with your positive vibes! You’ll always come out a winner, in the end.

How do you deal with negative self-talk?